Now of course I don’t literally mean sex in terms of the act. I am talking about sexual topics relating back to love and relationships. In today’ culture, sex is more prominent than it has ever been. However, the way that sex is portrayed in music, ads, and other forms of media isn’t necessarily reality. In the media, women are told how to look and act in order to be considered beautiful and sexy. Men are told when to have sex for the first time and how many women to have sex with in order to be considered a man. Pornography is a billion dollar industry that sells sex in way that isn’t intimate and leaves people feeling more insecure about their bodies and their sexual relationships. These lies that come from “us” is what keeps most of us from experiencing love and, yes, sex in a way that is honorable to our bodies and spirits.
If you have been following my blog ( thank you for that) you should know that my point of view on sex has changed. I am finding sex and all of its extensions complex and unsatisfactory. I watched a documentary called “sexy Baby” that gives us a glimps of the shift that sex has endured in this country. It broke my heart. Of course we are teaching our children about STD’s and safe sex but that isn’t enough. We need to learn and understand what it means to be “enough” ourselves and what it feels like to be worthy and to truly understand the intent behind sex. It isn’t a physical transaction between two people, it is the spiritual representation of our love for God and true intimacy. Uh oh! I said the “G” word.
Before you decided to click off my page let me explain something to you.I am not here to try to convince anyone to turn their lives over to God and adopt His point of view on this topic. I am no saint, believe me. But I have been through a lot of experiences that has lead to me a place where “sex” is something that is intimate, selfless, vulnerable, magical, spiritual, and awesome and it is intended to be experienced as nothing less. Next to food, it is the one pleasure on this planet that entices all of our senses, smell, taste, touch, see, and hear. The dialogue of sex, in a meaningful form, is taboo and it is a delicate subject to talk about because it requires people to become vulnerable and show who they are and how they truly feel, which isn’t always pleasant and can be rather painful to discuss. But the issues that are at our core that we use porn, promiscuity, and one night stands to cover up is what I am after. Those issue is what we all need to sit down at a table with someone we trust, break bread, and release those “soul ties” so we can be more connected to our minds, bodies and hearts. I hope you find an article that you can relate to and will share with others over a well cooked meal or over some dessert and coffee. Either way, let’s get the conversation going so we can change our lives and our communities.