Did you know last month was Romance Awareness Month?
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Okay, so here is where my husband and I are different, I am a romantic and he is not. Its not that I am an over the top romantic type of girl, I just like little “sweet nothing” gestures that makes my heart flutter, my face turn red, and puts butterflies in my stomach. Although we are married, we still struggle a bit in this area because of our ideals of romance. For instance, when he thinks I want romance, he thinks I want flower petals all over the floor (Who wants to clean that up?), candles leading you to a designated spot in our home (Please, the house could catch on fire!), and feeding each other strawberries and other fruit with honey and chocolate syrup (I don’t like pure honey by itself and that stuff is sticky). I always tell him that is not what I am looking for. To be honest, I think some romantic gestures are a bit cheesy for my taste. What would be romantic for me is buying something I have been craving, or telling me to put my feet up because he is going to clean the entire house, or cooking a brand new recipe from a cookbook while wearing an apron. Oh yes, he must be wearing an apron. Oh lawd, I’m getting hot just thinking about it. But those simple things are romantic to me. His version of romance is cooking or buying him some chicken wings and leaving him alone on football Sunday. Can we say BORING? Even for him I don’t think that is romantic. Honestly, I think that is just leaving him the hell alone. But what do I know!
In any marriage you have got to have romance. How much and how often to execute is relative. Romance will look different amongst every couple. What romance looks like for Al and I is going to look different for you and your spouse, but it is an absolutely necessary aspect of your relationship that needs to be nurtured. Sure, there will be times when one or both of you drop the ball because life takes over, but that is where the true make up of your relationship comes into play. Also, when you come back together after a certain duration of time when you both have been busy and on the go, I think those opportunities are the best because its like saying, “Hello. What’s your name?” all over again.
One thing I realized about being married, is that when you get married and say “I do” those words are not magic. You don’t suddenly have a great marriage and even a great spouse. You have got to work at it. When you are married you are not automatically “one”. You are working hard everyday to become “one”. My husband and I strongly believe that in the areas that he and I both lack, the other is the strongest; in the areas in our life that has been neglected, we are each others redemption; and in the parts of our personalities that may not carry the demeanor of God, we both have the strength or “balls” to lovingly correct each other so we can be better people for God, His will, and each other. Why do you think so many couples give up on the idea of marriage before they start or give up on the idea all together? Because they don’t understand the true magnitude of the work that is required. If you are a spiritual or religious person try to look at it from this perspective. When you gave your life to your creator, in my case God, I wasn’t automatically a better person or much holier person, I had to grow into that person. I am still being corrected and disciplined by God because I gave my life to Him he knows that I can do better in some ways. It is the same thing when it comes to marriage. My husband and I are not perfect. I am not here to paint a perfect or pretty picture about who we are or who I want you to believe we are. We still struggle, we are not always consistent in areas that we both need to be, and sometimes we cross each others boundaries. For as long as there is breath in both of our bodies, we will always be loving with one another, and correct each other, in hopes that God is pleased with us individually and as a union.
Romance is a big part of marriage. It can’t be all about the kids, the mortgage, the bills, and the traditions. The marriage has to take place above all of those things! I get it, sometimes its too hard to plan for date nights and sex even. Hey, I am about to have a kid soon and I know its not going to be a “free” as it has been in the past. But if you don’t make time for those things, you will look at the person you married and ask yourself “Who is this person?” I believe that people’s personalities changes, at least, every year or every other year. Something about a person needs, desires, or wants will change. If you are so busy in life and not putting your marriage as a priority you will miss those opportunities and it will be like being married to a stranger and you may not like the person you committed yourself to.
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