Let me tell you our wedding story…
My Wedding was Sexy
My husband and I have actually known each other since we were 12 years old. We went to the same middle school and high school together. When we were in middle school, I couldn’t stand him. You see, he was considered a trouble maker when we were younger. He was always fighting and he consistently teased me. When I saw him at one end of the hallway, I would alter my route so I didn’t have to cross paths with him. Things changed when we were in high school. In high school, he actually developed a crush on me. However, I couldn’t return the sentiment. You see, in middle school, he was the boyfriend of a friend of mine. Ladies, you all know the code. There are some things you just don’t do. Whenever he would do his flirt thing, I would quickly shut it down. After a while, he got the hint. Soooo, I went to college, we lost contact, and in 2010-2011 he found me on Facebook. From there, he asked me out on a date and the rest is history.
That is the short version.
What some people don’t know is that we actually got married on April 6, 2014 in front of our parents, best friends, and congregation. We wanted to be married but we wanted to honor the spiritual foundation we both stand on and our parents desires and wishes. So, we got married! But, I had to know we were going to have an actual wedding. I wanted the white dress and walk down the aisle with my grandfather. That was important to me. We actually had the date of the wedding ceremony planned before we got married in April of last year. The wedding ceremony we had in April (our original wedding date) was more of his style and the wedding we had in October was what I envisioned.
My wedding day was perfect! I am sure there were somethings that happened that I didn’t know about but it was great. One of the highlights for me was my bridesmaids! I am so happy that we all had the opportunity to get together. All of my bridesmaids, except 2, live in different parts of the country. Therefore, it is hard for all of us to get together at one time. These girls are the soul mates of my life. We didn’t have a typical Bachelorette Party. Instead, we just chilled at my hotel room, opened a few bottles of wine, and reminisced on old times. It was perfect and I was really tired.
There are so many things I can say about the day of the wedding but let me point out two of the most important moments.
- My last grandparent gave me away. This is the true man of my heart. I love him so much I can’t even put it into words. He and I have a unique story that I am going to have to save for another post. Just know that I will have the memory for the rest of my life of what it meant to him and me for him to give me away. We also danced to “My Girl” by the Temptations and he really got down on the flo!
- My husband and I wrote our own vows. My husband’s vows had the entire sanctuary in tears, including myself. He really dug deep and shared his truest feelings for me and they were awesome! It’s funny because he was giving me a hard time about writing his own vows. He wanted to say the old traditional vows because he didn’t want to write his own. My vows, were “gangsta” (so my husband says). The best part of the entire wedding ceremony.
Overall, there are a lot of words I can say about marriage and my wedding. The most important words I can say right now is that by the time you start reading this I will be on my Honeymoon!
I know I have not been married that long and we are still in the newlywed phase. But marriage is so sexy. I use to think marriage was a societal status that meant that women had to give up all of who they are to accommodate her husband. I am too independent for that. I thought I had to give up everything. What I learned in pre-marital counseling and just by voicing by concerns about marriage to my husband that I didn’t have to give up the things I like to do for myself. Of course I had to make room for someone else in my life. But it doesn’t mean that I can’t hang out, have to cook every day, do all the chores, or not travel to visit my girls. I am still Nicole just with a different last name and sexy man who I come home to every night.